Where overcoming stuttering begins
Often I find myself playing “Courage”, original by Villagers, on my guitar. It’s an awesome song with lyrics that really speak to me.
Here’s part of the lyrics:
“It took a little time to get where I wanted, it took a little time to get free. It took a little time to be honest, it took a little time to be me”
“Courage, it’s a feeling like no other let me tell you. Courage, in harmony with something other than your ego. Courage, the sweet belief of knowing nothing comes for free.”
In a recent video Stuart and I talked about where to begin when you want to overcome stuttering. We had some really great insights there, but to be honest: this is where it all starts.
You will need courage.
Not a lot, but just enough to not to be afraid to start. Just enough to stop procrastinating and start putting yourself, your heart and your vulnerability out there.
It’s scary, man, do I know. I too shat my fair share of pants. But …
Understand that fluency will never come for free. The song tells you how it is. Not in the sense of money, but in the sense of putting in the work: It requires an expenditure of energy. Speaking fluent doesn’t come by sitting on your ass.
Just 1% more courage
Understand that we are litterally lulled into mediocrity.
Lame music on the radio, boring soaps on tv and fast food in your hands. Open your eyes and look at people dressing the same, talking the same and acting the same. No one dares to express a little courage to step out of this nonsense and learn how to fully express their true selves.
I dare to say that 90% of people on this planet, if not more, lack the skill of courage. Most settle for this mediocrity. They are ok with the status quo.
Most people don’t have the balls to pierce through their self made (often fake) reality. If they would, they would see that there’s a more powerful realm up for grabs.
The Realm of people who overcome stuttering
Understand that dwelling in the realm of mediocrity is not the place for you overcoming your stutter. In this realm you will find no energy for exercising courage and feeling motivated. Just because no one there can tell you how.
Stepping out this realm needs courage, but it only takes 1% more than other people have. You’re so close, you only need someone to lead you the way.
Courage: the first step in mastering stuttering
Courage is about trust. Fully trusting yourself to be capable of becoming fluent. Trust that you will learn from your mistakes and that they will make you a stronger person that eventually knows how to handle every situation that life throws at you. Full trust in yourself, you are capable in so much more than you might think.
That is what overcoming stuttering is about: master yourself, master your stutter. Being courageous is a huge part of it, and definitely the first step to take.
Where to find courage
Courage is found in everything. From the smallest day to day things, to huge life changes. The courage to ask someone a question, the courage to put an extra 20 pounds on your squatting rack, the courage to do something you’ve always wanted, the courage to ask for a raise, the courage to move to another country.
You can cultivate it in so many ways that eventually it will spread into your process of overcoming stuttering. Train your courage slowly and you’ll be ready to take on stuttering before you know it.
Use courage often, it gets stronger and it will be easier to use.
Slay your stutter
I would like to encourage you, hah, to look into courage. Read a book in which someone talks passionately about it and see in you become inspired.
Here are three awesome books you should read, at least in my opinion:
- Courage – Osho
- Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers
- The Power Of Now – Eckhart Tolle
All three describe courage differently. But that’s the beauty of it, different words for different people. See what gets you hooked and exited. This piece below gets me going like crazy!
Stuart and I want you to start overcoming stuttering, and to that with starting with courage. Courage slays uncertainty, slays procrastination, slays excuses and …
Courage slays your stutter.
You can do this.
Take a look around the website for more blogs, videos and a free downloadable e-book to start slaying!