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The less you try the more fluent you’ll be

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A big part of stuttering comes out of the idea that you can’t speak fluent and therefore have to DO something for it. But that effort, forcing and doing your best actually produces more stuttering.

Solution? Realise you’re already a fluent speaker and that there’s nothing to accomplish. There’s nothing to attain. There’s nothing to strive for.

Once you understand this, you’ll no longer feel the urge to try to control every word you speak. And that’s the moment that everything will start flowing more and more, including your speech.

H&S

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Stuttering and the importance of breathing

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Here’s a video on the importance of breathing on the path of becoming free of stuttering.

Overcoming stuttering has a lot to do with working on the psychological, emotional and physical aspects of it.

Breathing – however underestimated – has the power to influence, change and transform all those three aspects. However in order to do that, one has to breathe the right way: breathing into the pelvic floor.

Breathing properly starts with breathing out. Because breathing out is letting go. Secondly there’s the inbreath, which has to be done without any effort on your part. One has to simply let the breath come, and also let the breath go.

This way we learn to let go of tension, negative thinking, emotions and thus becoming more and more free of stuttering – or stammering.

Enjoy,

Hille

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Stuttering: An internal conflict

As you may or may not know, I’m currently studying for my master’s degree in psychology at the university of Groningen. I’m writing my thesis about stuttering and how it’s linked to self-esteem. During my extensive search for literature, I found multiple interesting articles and theories that contain a lot of value for people who are looking to overcome their stutter.

In this article I will share a psychological theory about stuttering, that describes stuttering as “the conflict between drives to speak and to avoid speaking.”

An internal conflict

To be more precise, Sheehan (1970) described stuttering as the following: “In his psychological theory of stuttering, Sheehan described people who stutter as experiencing a role conflict related to communication. He indicated that the person who stutters is caught in a conflict between drives to speak and to avoid speaking. Stuttering occurs when this conflict between speaking and not speaking occurs.”

In simpler terms, stuttering happens because on one side you want to speak, but there’s also a part of you that doesn’t want you to speak. The result is that the part that wants you to speak makes you speak, but the part that doesn’t want you to speak will try to stop you, which leads to blocks and repetitions, also known as stuttering.

Beyond the superficial

This theory of stuttering is a source of a lot of value on overcoming stuttering, depending on the way you look at it. It goes past the superficial issues of speech techniques, breathing and muscle movements. It tackles the deep concepts that need to be targeted in order to achieve lasting fluency.

The way we, at Broca Brothers, interpret this theory is that to overcome your stutter, you have to get rid of the part that doesn’t want you to speak. What will remain is the part that does want you to speak, and fluency will prevail.

Understanding the naysayers

To get rid of the part that doesn’t want us to speak, we have to understand where it’s coming from. We have to understand its motives. Why is there a part of us that doesn’t want us to express ourselves?

Because of the negative feedback we received when we did express ourselves. When we did decide to speak up. When we did decide to come up with an idea, ask a question or crack a joke.

From the moment we start to stutter, we can either react positively or negatively to our stutter. Since many people who stutter start to stutter when they’re a child, the way we react to our stutter is largely dependent on how our surroundings react to our stutter. How your parents, teachers and other close ones react to your stutter will determine its severity later in life.

If the environment you live in reacts positively to your stutter and doesn’t make a big deal out of it, you’re likely to outgrow your stutter. But when the people around you respond negatively, you’re likely to develop a chronic stutter.

You’re sent to speech therapy and you might get bullied because of the way you speak. Some people are trying to fix you, while other people are laughing at you.

Whatever way it happens, you get the feeling that there’s something wrong with you. You develop the core belief that stuttering is not OK, that stuttering is not “normal” and that it should be avoided. Because hey, stuttering leads to people calling you names, giving you weird faces and laughing at you. Negative emotions galore. Who wants that, right?

How to avoid those negative emotions? Avoid stuttering. How to avoid stuttering? Avoid speaking. This creates a downward spiral of negative beliefs, negative emotions and avoidance behavior that reinforce your negative beliefs. The longer the cycle goes on, the bigger and stronger the pattern becomes. And that’s when there’s a whole part of you that doesn’t want you to speak. A mechanism consisting of negative thoughts, emotions and behavior that will do everything in its power to stop you from speaking.

Crushing the naysayers

The part that doesn’t want us to speak is thus the result of the negative core beliefs we developed during the years we started to stutter. And to change and get rid of negative beliefs is to prove them wrong. Show yourself that you have been believing in false truths all along.

The negative belief of stuttering not being OK is simply targeted by stuttering. This belief often leads to covert stuttering, which is countered by being open about your stutter and stuttering whenever you feel a stutter coming up. They might be scary things to do, but soon you will realize that most people do not care about your stutter as much as you think they do. Everyone is busy with themselves.

Next to destroying the old beliefs we have, we have to install new beliefs. “I’m able to speak fluent.” and “It’s OK if I stutter.” are among the most important ones. But just thinking about them once or twice is not enough to make you really believe them.

Just as proving negative beliefs to be false, you have to prove positive beliefs to be true. Prove to yourself that there is a fluent speaker inside of you. Talk to yourself. Talk to your pets. Read out loud. Envision yourself being fluent. Get up each morning and say to yourself that you are able to speak fluent, looking back at the moments from the day before that you were fluent. Enter the conversation with a smile, knowing that it will be fine either way, fluent or not. Stop pressuring yourself into being fluent, instead focus on becoming fluent.

If you want to learn more about becoming a fluent speaker, you might want to start with our free 10 step program to Kick Start Your Fluency here.

Till next time,

Stuart

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THE SELF-DECEPTION SERIES: “I CAN’T DO THIS.” (3 OF 3)

In this article series I will talk you through the three-part barrier you have to crush in order to reach your fluent potential and become your best self: self-deception. 

The first part of the series is about being honest to yourself. Click here if you haven’t read it yet. The second part of the series is about being courageous. Click here for the article. If you haven’t read both articles yet, I would advise you to do so before you move on with this third and last article.

The third and last step

Once you are honest to yourself that change is needed, have the courage to step up and get what you want, your mind is in the right place to realize that change.

The only thing that can stop you from becoming a fluent speaker is stopping before you tried. This third article of the series will tackle that last part of the self-deception barrier: keeping on and pushing through.

“I can’t do this.”

You want to become a fluent speaker, but can you do it? Ask yourself that question. Do you have the physical and mental means to overcome your stutter?

When answering that question, you’re probably thinking about what other people told you about overcoming your stutter. Chances are that you’ve been told that your stutter is only manageable and therefore you have to accept it as a part of you.

The obvious answer to being able to overcome your stutter would then be “No, I can’t do that.”

But let me ask you a question again. What is that thought based on? On other people’s stories or on your own experience? If you think you can’t do it, there are three possible reasons for coming to that conclusion. I will describe them one by one.

1. Stories from other people

People have been telling you that you can’t become a fluent speaker. Either because no one can or that you just don’t have it in you. If this is you, I only have one thing to say, which by the way also applies to many other situations: try it out yourself. The living proof of people who stutter being able to become fluent speakers has written the words of the article you’re reading right now. Don’t come to conclusions if you haven’t even tried yourself.

Sure, becoming 100% fluent might be difficult. But we at Broca Brothers are certain that you can become 95% fluent to the point that no one around you notices that you have a stutter.

Having crushed this negative belief that is spread around in the stuttering community, only one thing remains: doing the damn thing.

2. Trying without the necessary steps and commitment

There’s also the possibility that you have tried but didn’t get the results you wanted. Chances are that you didn’t follow the right steps or carry them out long enough, for example practising your speech at home for months but not practising it in the outside world or pushing yourself to talk to strangers but only doing it for a week. If this is you, you have to try harder and be smarter. Do the things that are required and keep doing them for multiple months.

3. Trying with the necessary steps and commitment

You’ve done everything that is needed to be done and you didn’t become more fluent. Sorry, but unless you stutter because of a head injury or the like, you’re lying to yourself and you are the perfect example of someone who needs to crush the self-deception barrier.

Slow and steady wins the race

The point of this article is that after you have decided on your needs for change, I want you to get out there and act on those needs, without the limiting beliefs that other people put in your head.

If you fail to overcome your stutter, it’s because you don’t take right action for the right amount of time. Not because you can’t do it.

Because big results don’t come quick. Realize that before giving up. One of our favourite sayings at Broca Brothers is “Everything that’s worth getting does not come easy.”. Do you want to achieve something? Then you have to work for it.

Whether you want to become a fluent speaker, graduate from your studies or get a fit and healthy body, time and effort has to be put in. There are no shortcuts.

Crushing your stutter doesn’t happen overnight. There might be some changes in speech after a couple of weeks or even days, but to mold those changes into a strong and lasting habit of fluent speech, multiple months of work are needed.

Not for everyone

Some people just can’t seem to do it. They don’t have the willpower and discipline to get what they want and do what is necessary. And that’s just fine. It’s not for everyone. Not everyone is able to keep going despite the hard and difficult moments.

But if you’ve been following us for some time and reading this article, I’m sure you are. You’re at the right place to overcome your stutter.

The only thing that can stop you now is saying that you can’t do it.

Try before you die

I want you to try to become a fluent speaker. But I want you to try with purpose. Try with dedication. I want you to try with the faith that change will occur if you put in time and effort.

You know you need it, you know you want it and now you know you can do it. You’re honest. You’re courageous. You’re dedicated. The self-deception barrier is crushed. There’s no stopping you. Go out there and grab that life full of fluency and expressiveness.

Are you not sure where to start when overcoming your stutter? We built a FREE 10-step program to kickstart your fluency. Downloadable here.

Have fun crushing it,

Stuart

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The Self-Deception Series: “I don’t want this.” (2 of 3)

In this article series I will talk you through the three-part barrier you have to crush in order to reach your fluent potential and become your best self: self-deception. 

In the first part of the series I talked about the first step in crushing the self-deception barrier: being honest to yourself. If you haven’t read it yet I would strongly recommend to do so before you move on. Click here for part one.

The second step

Once you can be honest to yourself and realize that change is the way to go, other success barriers will cross your path. This second article of the series will aim to tackle the second part of self-deception: putting your intentions into actions.

Once you have decided that you want to become a fluent speaker, it’s time to take action. Saying that you want to change is one thing, acting on it is another. Even though you’ve set your sights on change, your mind might still try to stop it.

The comfort zone

Your mind will try to keep you from change in the form of fear and anxiety. Most of those anxieties arise when you perceive a potential action as being outside of your comfort zone. You’re not used to doing it and therefore you’re not sure what’s going to happen. What follows is your mind perceiving that situation as dangerous.

A common example. When you want to become more confident and relaxed in social situations, you have to show yourself that those situations aren’t scary. One way of doing that is to talk to strangers and prove to yourself that those situations pose no threat.

You’ve been honest to yourself and set a new goal. You’re out on the streets, ready to dive into the unknown and talk to strangers, asking for directions or complimenting them on their outfit.

All these people walking past you and you feel the tension rising. You’re becoming nervous and your breathing becomes shallow. “What if they dont like me?”, “What if they will laugh at me?”, “What if they don’t have time to speak to me?”.

It’s a trap

This is where it gets tricky. You start questioning yourself. “Is this really what I want?”. To answer that question you listen to your thoughts and feelings, potentially negative ones.

Your mind comes up with thousands of excuses. Your body is tensed. Nervous, insecure and scared. Your conclusion is as destructive as “I don’t need this.”:

“I don’t want this.”

“I dont feel like doing this so I guess I don’t want it.”

Wrong!

Nonsense. Lies. Self-deception. Do you remember when you were sitting on your couch or lying in your bed and you decided that you want to overcome your stutter? That you don’t want to be controlled by your stutter any longer?

Indeed. You do want it. And you want it badly.

Deceitful fears

Those fears just make it seem like you don’t. But you know better. You know that this is the right course of action. You know that this will get you closer to your goals. You know that this will crush your stutter.

In the face of fear you have to realize what you’re doing it for. Being true to yourself and having the courage to break through those fears.

Courage, Hille wrote a whole article about it, is the second piece of the puzzle. Once you’ve been honest to yourself and set a new goal, you need to act on it. Having faith in yourself that you will pull through and carry out the action successfully. Doing what you know is right while ignoring the social pressure that is put upon you.

Courage is pushing through despite all the tension because you know what’s best. It’s staying calm and collected with your goal in mind. Fighting your anxieties and trying to supress them will not help you. You have to be mindful and accepting toward them. It’s all part of the game.

Shaky knees

I remember when I talked to a stranger on the streets for the first time. I will never forget that feeling. I texted Hille and some friends of mine. I’ve been thinking about it for months and I finally did it. My legs kept shaking for 15 minutes after the conversation.

It set me free. I felt like I owned the streets. I realized that I’m able to do anything at anytime I want. My stutter didn’t control me anymore.

All it took was a little honesty and courage. And I know you can do it too. Don’t wait for the right moment where you dont feel anxious. Because that moment will not come. Those fears will be there. And that’s totally fine. But every time you choose to not do something because you’re scared, you will reinforce those fears and they will control you more and more. Don’t choose fear, choose growth.

Honesty was the first piece. Courage is the second. The third and last piece to crush the self-deception barrier and rise to your full potential will be revealed next time. Don’t miss out on it by joining our thriving and hard-working community here.

May the courage be with you and your stutter be crushed,

Stuart

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The Self-Deception Series: “I don’t need this.” (1 of 3)

In this article series I will talk you through the three-part barrier you have to crush in order to reach your fluent potential and become your best self: self-deception. 

Self-Deception

“Self-deception is a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument.”. Self-deception is the art of lying to oneself. It is your mind tricking you into a false sense of reality, with many possible negative consequences as a result.

This first article of the series will aim to tackle the first part of self-deception: your mind being antagonistic toward change.

Because before you can decide to commit yourself to change, you have to realize that change is necessary.

Before you want to become a fluent speaker, you have to realize that you don’t want to be lead around by your stutter anymore.

You have to tell yourself “No more of this”.

Change

But getting yourself to take that first step toward change is all but a simple one.

We have said it before. There are parts of you that don’t want you to change. Your mind wants you to stay in homeostasis. It wants you to remain the same person you’ve always been.

Once you have constructed a certain identity, your mind will hold on to that identity, especially your ego. This holds for both positive and negative identities.

If you identify with being a person who stutters, your mind will do everything in its power to reinforce that identity. To reinforce your belief that you will stutter for the rest of your life and apply all the stereotypes that come along with it.

Evolution

The reason is simple: we are all lazy. Our instincts that we inherited from our ancestors tell us to preserve as much energy as possible to save it for situations we need it most, to increase our chances of survival.

And you might have seen it coming: change is effortful. Change costs a lot of energy, especially change that needs to happen on a deep level, which is the case for stuttering.

And all these forces that make us believe that change is not necessary will lead to one core thought:

“I don’t need this.”

Excuses

It appears in every way, shape or form.

“I don’t need to become a fluent speaker, I stutter and that’s just who I am.”, “I don’t need to exercise more and lose weight, society should stop having unrealistic expectations.”, “I don’t need to work on my social skills, I like being by myself anyway.”

You can probably come up with other examples of how the mind rationalizes itself into inaction.

Sure, if you really think that you don’t need to become a fluent speaker, fine with me. I fully support you and stutter on!

But if you choose to not work on it, I don’t want to hear any complaining.

Don’t let your stutter control your life. Don’t be scared of giving a speech. Don’t let it keep you from speaking up and making friends.

My mother always says “If you don’t vote, you don’t have the right to complain about politics.”. It’s the same principle. If you don’t take action, be ready to accept the consequences that come with it.

The beauty of change

“I don’t need this” is one of the most common excuses that is used to convince oneself to stay in his or her comfort zone, and I get sad of the thought of this excuse destroying so much potential, day in day out.

Change is beautiful. Development is beautiful. There is no such thing as discovering who you truly are. And in a way we should be grateful for having a stutter. Because having a stutter and being able to overcome it is one of the greatest tools we can use to work on ourselves and become our best self.

But it is no easy task. It takes honesty. It takes clarity. And it probably takes a lot of pain before you can look at yourself in the mirror and promise yourself ”no more of this”.

Pain

For me to decide to work on myself took a lot of pain as well. It took a lot of negative experiences. It took a lot of rejections. It took a lot of hard moments in which depressive thoughts started to take over.

Oh, yes, I had my excuses. “People are assholes.”, “People just don’t understand me.”. But maybe there was something wrong with me. Maybe those people were right. Maybe there was something off about me. Maybe I was pretending to be something I wasn’t. Maybe I was lying to myself, maybe I was deceiving myself…

And I was. So I decided that it was enough. My life took a 180 degree turn.

Honesty

I want that for you too. I want you to experience the freedom and control over your own life. I want you to be able to get out of life what you want. I want you to develop loving relationships. I want you to be able to share your life by speaking up. I want you to express yourself. I want you to be honest. I want you to crush your stutter.

Honesty is the first piece of the puzzle. Next week I will talk you through the second part of the self-deception barrier: “I don’t want this”. Make sure you don’t miss it by joining our community here.

Much love and appreciation,

Stuart

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The Dangerous act of Labelling

A couple of days ago during one of my psychology classes, we were talking about faulty thought patterns.

One of them is called labelling: describing someone or something in a word or short phrase.

Labelling

This description seems pretty harmless, as if it’s an important part of how we communicate. But when I heard the examples given I immediately had to think of people who stutter.

“I am a stutterer.”, “I’m just not very outgoing.” and “This isn’t for me.” are all examples of labelling, some more harmful than others.

Again, it seems pretty harmless at first. Seeing yourself as a person who stutters doesn’t have to have negative consequences. Seeing yourself as an introvert might be an accurate view of reality.

Problems arise, however, when people put labels on themselves too fast, when they come to conclusions without the neccesary evidence.

Stuart the introvert

I always thought of myself as an introvert. Being shy, being quiet.

I told myself that I just liked to be alone. Until the point when I realized that I might be lying to myself.

I wanted to try out this “extrovert” thing.

I started throwing myself into the scariest social situations possible. Talking to strangers. Talking to groups of people. During broad day light as well as while out with friends.

Slowly but surely I started to change. I enjoyed meeting new people. Putting myself out there. Expressing myself. Being in the center of attention for once, instead of being a pretty wallflower.

I liked being extrovert. 

Unjustified

I realized that I was too quick in labelling myself as an introvert, as being shy. How could I ever call myself that if I didn’t even try the other side of the coin?

I see this kind of faulty and limiting thinking a lot among people who stutter. “I stutter, and I always will.”, “I’m just a shy person, it’s how I was born.” and “These exercises aren’t for me.” get thrown around daily.

I’m not saying those people are wrong, that they aren’t speaking the truth. But what I do want to call them out on is: Have you even tried? 

Have you even tried overcoming your stutter? Have you even tried being more outgoing? Have you even tried those exercises?

And with trying I mean trying it out for more than two days. Actually trying, putting in the effort.

If your answer is yes and you end up at the same conclusion: fair enough. You gathered evidence for both sides of the story so your conclusion and label should be justified.

But if you can be honest to yourself and your answer is no, then please don’t rush to conclusions. Try it out first. You never know what you might discover.

The biggest regret of elder people are about things they didn’t do, not about things they did do.

Try it out. Discover and experience.

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Much love,

Stuart

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Stuttering explained: a complete brainwash

Last week we joined a talk show. We were invited to talk about stuttering, and so was another speech therapist. The host used to stutter himself too, so everything was set up for an interesting conversation.

And it was very interesting.

The speech therapist mainly works with young children (3 to 5 years old) and we mainly work with 18 year olds and older. And because the approaches to the stuttering of a 3 year old and the 18 year old are so different, people got a complete view on stuttering.

Before the show the speech therapist told us about parents being more frightened by the occurrence of stuttering in their child than the child itself.

And this is so recognizable. I’d like to talk more about this.

Within their approach there lies a big emphasis on calming down the environment of the child, because the way they (parents, family, friends, school) handle the stuttering of the child has a huge impact.

Also, in their approach stuttering is seen as a timing disorder. As that might be the case for a young child, we say that is not the main issue when dealing with an older person who stutters.

We find that when PWS reach a certain age this timing issue might already be gone and that the PWS is trapped in a pattern. He or she basically is being brainwashed into believing in the stuttering and expecting to do so.

A negative self-image, negative thoughts and feelings about stuttering and oneself plus stuttering behavior all creates this full belief in being a ‘stutterer’. And it begins with how people around the kid handle the stuttering and how this is interpreted by the child.

Childhood

It all starts in childhood where the parents are more frightened by the stuttering than the child itself!

What is the child going to think? That nothing is wrong?!

Of course not, kids are very aware of the behavior of their parents. They have to because they learn from their role models (also known as older and wiser people).

When people go about the kid’s stuttering so anxiously, stuttering easily becomes seen as something ‘not right, ‘wrong’ and ‘something that may not happen’.

Even speech therapy can emphasize this worry. Because now the kid has to be sent somewhere in order to ‘fix’ a ‘problem’.

The kid might even get bullied, or teased about stuttering. Or laughed at, and it might not even be with bad intentions but the kid might interpret it as just that.

Downward spiral

When this happens, chances are the kid falls into a downward spiral.

A downward spiral in which emotions and thoughts start influencing a young child. Beliefs that are created of not being good enough, of being worthless and in need of fixing before he or she is normal again.

It completely influences the self-image, self-esteem and the way they go about interacting with others.

Shame arises, anxiety, fear of speaking, all those things develop because the kid sees stuttering as something inherently wrong.

Kids learn fast and are all just as smart as the next one: move away from pain, move towards pleasure.

If stuttering means pain, be it physical or mental, you will not move towards it. You will do everything to hide it, to pretend as if nothing is wrong. Which usually leads to social anxiety and more behavior that supports stuttering.

Is this the case with every person who stutters?

No, absolutely not. The host himself never worried about his stuttering at all. He told about how he never saw stuttering as a problem and that he grew out of it.

You can see how powerful a positive attitude is. What it can do for you.

The brainwash of stuttering

But every person who still stutters that we talk to, has so much more issues with their self-image, thoughts and emotions than they’re having with ‘timing’. Most of them can speak very fluent when they’re by themselves, when they read a book or something similar.

But when it comes down to social situations they freeze up.

And that is because they are in a stutter pattern. They are in the habit of stuttering so to say.

This is called chronic stuttering, it’s something completely different from what kids experience.

A negative self-image surrounds most PWS. Expectations and assumptions are created in childhood. This influences their thoughts and emotions which on their turn influence the behavior and the actual stuttering.

Years and years go by and stuttering is right along there with you. You now might get an idea of what that can do to you.

Stuttering is everywhere

Stuttering is everywhere: in your thoughts, feelings and your doings.

It all feels so completely real. You fully believe in yourself being a person who stutters.

You too are guilty of having negative expectations for certain words and social situations. You expect to stutter at those times because you have experienced it in the past.

These negative experiences become so ingrained into your whole system, the mental and the physical, that it becomes difficult to break out of.

You wake up with it and you go to bed with it.

When you speak it’s there, when you think it’s there and when you feel it’s there, even up to feeling of being trapped by your stuttering because stuttering created so much tension in your musculature.

This is what we call a brainwash. We call it the stutter programming and it’s complete craziness when you fully understand this.

It has almost nothing to do with the speech development issues a young child has anymore. This has everything to do with your view on yourself and on the world around you.

How to deal with this type of stuttering

When stuttering is everywhere, you have to look everywhere in order to get rid of it. You cannot look for this one technique or trick that is going to save you, because it won’t.

We hear it way too often: I tried yoga but it didn’t work, I tried a speaking technique but it didn’t work, I tried reading out loud but it didn’t work.

You can’t pick one thing to get rid of something that has been going on for years. Stuttering has full control over everything you feel, think and say. And therefore you have to fully get back in control of those things.

How you can get back in control

Get back in control by changing subtle behaviors. Look someone in the eyes when you’re talking to each other. Walk up straight, breathe into your belly and actively try to become more at ease with your environment.

Grab a book to read out loud, practice speaking when you’re by yourself and start your day with relaxation exercises.

Then find ways how to deal with your emotions, your ego and finally change your core belief.

Core belief

Your core belief is created in childhood. It’s probably something close to: I am not good enough.

This core belief is the creator of all the bullshit you’re going through. This is why you feel less than everyone, this is why you’re trying so hard to be fluent when you’re around others and this is why you keep stuttering.

When you read this, try to forget everything you ever learned about stuttering. That stuttering is because of your diaphragm not working properly, that is has to do with breathing, that it’s a timing disorder and especially that it is something you have to learn to live with.

We believe this to be false. But we also understand that it can feel like it is something you have to learn to live with because the stutter patterns are so deeply ingrained into you.

You too can get back in control

You can.

We’re not saying stuttering can, or should be, removed completely,

But not letting stuttering control your life is a very achievable goal, for you too.

And you have to start with seeing for what stuttering truly is: a program, a pattern you’re stuck in.

You can step out of it. Start today.

 

Thanks so much for taking the time to read it, it’s really appreciated.

Talk soon,

Hille

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Broca Brothers Battle Stuttering | Local newspaper interview |

Hi there!

We recently have been interviewed for a local Dutch newspaper about the way we approach stuttering and of course reaching other people who stutter around the world with our message.

If you’re Dutch you can read the original copy right here!

If you’re not Dutch, don’t worry because you can read the translated version below.

Enjoy.

H&S

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Broca brothers battle stuttering

Witmarsum (NL) – “We know what the solution for stuttering is and we want to tell the whole world.” With that goal in mind brothers Hille and Stuart set up Broca Brothers.

The reason

The Broca Brothers is a duo that faces stuttering head on. Hille explains the reason: “I woke up one Friday morning and it was very clear to me: this has to change”, says the elder brother, who only just recently still stuttered heavily. “I’m going outside right now to talk to people. I’m just going to ask them what time it is, that is nothing to worry about. But my heart was pounding in my throat and I stood there shaking like a straw. Then I thought: if I feel like this about a situation like that, then it has to do with many other aspects than just speaking.” That event was the reason for Hille to change course completely. “I made a plan and jumped in completely”.

The search

It was a search for a ‘real’ solution. Hille read many books ranging from psychology, physiology to even a little spirituality. This, in combination with the psychology study of younger brother Stuart en their own experiences, makes it so that they found a solution that worked very well for them. Hille: “When you stutter you’re trapped in a program. It’s a vicious cycle. It’s a brainwash; the feeling that you’re worth less than others. Stuttering has a total impact on emotions, thoughts and self image. That has to change. It is possible to break out of that program.” The emphasis lies on the changing of that self image. “It’s very important to work on your self image. You will get more confidence out of it, you will act in a different way and because of that speak more fluent.

Successful

The approach has been successful for the two. Hille, now living in Utrecht: “My speech continuously improved. If I came back at my parents’ place they didn’t understand what was going on. I realized that speaking fluent is pretty pleasing.”

Youtube channel

The brothers are extremely focused on sharing their findings with the rest of the world. Through their YouTube channel they spread videos in English with tutorials and through their website www.brocabrothers.com they offer support and coaching. With that they reach people who stutter all around the world. “We have followers from Germany, United States, Russia, India..” Hille tells. “We fully believe in this approach and we see that it works. This way you’ll get results you never thought were possible. It’s super frustrating if we see people struggling with their stutter when it doesn’t have to be that way.”

Yme Gietema – Bolswarder Nieuwsblad

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6 Simple Stutter Tips

Here´s six simple stutter tips for you!

Estimated reading time: 1 minute

Sometimes talking can be very hard, yet sometimes the most simple tip can make you a lot more fluent, as these tips definitely did for us.

There are 1000’s of tips out there, here’s just 6 but we believe this to be very effective ones! See what works for you.

  1. Read out loud every day.

Try this for one whole month. There are many people who stutter that get the benefit of warming up their voice in the morning before heading out. It’s a great place to start if you’re looking to overcome your stuttering.

  1. Project your voice.

Actively use your voice, exaggerate your pronunciation a little bit more and just put a little more effort in your speaking and expressing.

  1. Speak when you’re completely ready for it.

HUGE game changer for a lot of people who stutter. So simple and often VERY effective. Don’t rush yourself into a conversation. Relax a little before speaking.

  1. Take your time.

Same category as nr. 3. But also take your time when you’re IN a conversation. Don’t feel pressured into ANYTHING! The things you have to say are important; people can wait 3 extra seconds.

  1. Hold Eyecontact.

Never look away when a stutter comes up. Keep eyecontact, go back to nr.4 and continue. Eye contact gives a lot of PWS the comfort of knowing someone’s paying attention, which builds trust, comfort and results in a more relaxed state.

  1. Voluntary stuttering.

For BOSSES only. The best way to get back in control of your speech is when you are in control of the outcome. Voluntary stuttering shows your brain that there’s nothing scary to stuttering and afterwards you feel like superman, or woman.

7.  Bonus tip!

Always try to have fun.

Talk soon.
Hille & Stuart

P.S. Have you seen our video already of the talk we did at McGuire NL? Inspiration all over the place! You can watch it here (you can turn on English subtitles).