Our Approach Letting go of stuttering

About letting go of stuttering.

Watch it in the video above, or read about it down below: how we approach stuttering and the path to speaking more fluently.

Because when you find yourself on this page, you’re probably curious as to what the letting go of stuttering is all about.

Well, we’re happy to provide. And we’re going to do so by means of a couple of questions, starting with the following.

Do you always stutter when you speak?

Not the most difficult question, but a good one to start with.

It probably doesn’t take very long to come up with the answer, and it´ll likely be a short one too: no.

No matter how bad of a day you might have speech wise, there’s pretty much always a moment in which some words or sentences do come out fluently.

Let alone whole days, weeks or even months in which your speech seems to go pretty well.

No, it’s plain and simple. You don’t always stutter when you speak.

Why do you sometimes speak fluently?

A question that follows the previous one. Also a question that you may have never really thought about.

People who stutter are usually mainly focused on the moments of stuttering, the moments in which it goes ‘wrong’. Those are the sore points, the things people want to get rid of.

And the moments in which your speech does come out fluently? Those moments seem to be less important. You may not really give them a thought and simply get on with your day.

That way it’s likely that you attribute those fluent moments to coincidence, luck or ‘it’s just a fluke’.

Well, you’re selling yourself short if that’s the case. Because it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Did you know you already are a fluent speaker?

Yes, that´s correct. You might think of yourself as a person who stutters, but deep inside you already are a fluent speaker.

The fluent moments that we talked about earlier prove that you already are able to speak fluently. And if it´s possible in one situation, you can also do it in another.

Because if you did have some kind of brain defect that causes your speech mechanism to go out of control, then why isn´t that always the case when you speak?

It would mean that your speech mechanism is ´broken´ in one situation, but then seems to work fine in another situation.

No, in recent years we discovered that something else is going on here.

Sometimes there´s something in the way of your fluency.

That´s what´s going on here. You already are able to speak fluently, but it just doesn´t always come out that way.

To understand why it doesn´t always work out, you can simply take a look at the moments in which you stutter. What is causing you to stutter in those moments?

In most cases they are situations in which you experience some form of tension, stress of pressure while you´re speaking. And that´s what gets in the way of your fluent speech.

The tension that you experience in those moments create an internal block through which the fluency that´s inside of you is not able to flow.

The result of such an internal block is an external block, that which is more or less visible on the outside: stuttering.

Sometimes there’s more in the way than you think.

After talking about the above, we often get comments along the lines of ‘but sometimes I don’t feel tensed at all and I still stutter!’

You may then think that those Broca Bro’s are talking a load of nonsense, but let us tell you this.

Earlier we we’re talking about conscious internal blocks, tension that you are aware of in the moment. But most people are also dealing with unconscious internal blocks.

Those have to do with tension that has been building up over the years and has become so ‘normal’ that you don’t really feel it anymore.

That’s also called chronic, unconscious muscle tension. That way you might feel like you’re relaxed and at ease, but in reality things may look a little different on the inside.

Letting go means to dissolve those internal blocks.

When you look at it that way, then stuttering isn’t much of a speech problem at all. It’s a symptom of deeper, underlying causes.

During our coaching we work on those causes, reaching from physical, chronic tension to the more unconscious psychological patterns that may influence your speech.

All this means that you don’t have to learn something new in order to speak fluently, like a speech technique, breathing trick or some other type of mannerism.

But that it’s all about unlearning, in other words ‘letting go’ of that which gets in the way of your fluent speech.

Doing so will set you free from that which is in the way, which results in your speech being able to flow again – it’s called fluent speech for a reason!

The letting go consists of three parts.

To keep things simple we can divide our approach into three parts, with each part supporting the other.

Breathing-relaxation exercises.

It may be a bit surprising, but through the breath it’s possible to let go of literally everything that’s in the way of your fluent speech.

For that to be the case though, the breathing has to happen in the right, natural way: the pelvic breathing. Yes, that’s even a level below the infamous belly breathing.

Letting go and the right way of breathing usually take practice, which come together in the breathing-relaxation exercises that we hand over which you can practise at home.

Letting go in your daily life.

When you then go into the day, chances are that you come across some things that can reduce the relaxation that you built up during the exercises.

Tense situations, emotional moments and seemingly endless thinking are some of those things that can take you off track.

That’s why it’s important to learn how to deal with daily stressors, emotions and negative thoughts so that they will not influence your speech any longer.

Know yourself.

Lastly, it’s helpful to gain insight into where the tension, emotions and thoughts come from. Because they usually don’t just come out of the blue.

Generally they have to do with experiences during earlier years that have led to unconscious psychological patterns that can still bother us to this day.

When you also shed some light on these topics, it will easen the process of letting go and you won’t be fighting a running battle.

The common thread: letting go deeper.

The three parts of letting go may look to differ from each other, but they’re not really separate parts at all.

That’s because there’s a common thread throughout the whole thing: the deeper you let go, the more fluent you will speak.

The more you let go, the more the fluency that’s already inside of you will be able to come out, without having to ‘do’ anything for it.

The result being effortless, fluent speech.

So the deeper you let go, the more fluent you will speak. But if you ask us, the manner in which the fluency happens is also important.

Because speaking fluently is great, but even greater is the fact that it’s possible without having to use techniques, tricks or other types of mannerisms.

That it’s not needed to always think about what to say, how to say it and when to say it.

That you no longer have to control your speech, but that you know that speaking fluently is something that can happen effortlessly.

In short, the result is being a free and fluent speaker, someone who is able to say what he wants to say and do what he wants to do in the most spontaneous manner.

Curious about the letting go of stuttering?

If you’d like to start with letting go of stuttering, we usually recommend to start with the group course.

Besides that we advise to make use of individual coaching, while you’re also free to start with such an individual coaching session.

If you have any questions, simply e-mail us here. It’s also possible to arrange a free Skype consult to talk things through.

What we offer

The Group Course

In this carefully composed course, we take you through the first important subjects and exercises to start letting go of stuttering.

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Individual Coaching

During individual coaching sessions we simply look at what problems you currently face regarding stuttering and help you to deal with them.

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